Monday, February 23, 2015

Another reason why you shouldn't see Fifty Shades of Grey

The temperature in a room full of women rises as soon as the title is mentioned. I never knew there were so many kinky women out there!

 Fifty Shades of Grey, the story of Christian Grey, a powerful, wealthy businessman who meets his future wife, Anastasia Steele and embarks on lots of sex with her. Some of it is kinky, some isn't. I pretty much summarized all three books. :)

 My former roommate is against anyone seeing the movie. I would agree with her that unless you're into S&M that you're wasting your time. (I read all three books. Don't judge...) I would also take a similar view.

 This isn't spoken about frequently, but people don't realize that Christian was a victim of child molestation. These books weren't simply about kinky sex. They were about a grown man trying to heal from being abandoned by his biological, drug addict mother and also mainly the abuse heaped upon him as a teenager by his adopted mother's friend who was, coincidentally, into S&M.

 Now I do believe that we should leave consenting adults alone in the bedroom. If they want to swing from the chandeliers in private and do other kinky things, go right ahead, as long as I don't see it.

 Honestly though, if the movie is anything like the book(s), this is about glorifying child molestation. This isn't about consenting adults being kinky. It's about a troubled man in therapy due to his childhood issues trying to inflict pain on women.

 That's it!

 Why would anyone want to support that?

Saturday, February 14, 2015

The month of love begins with...death?

 February began on a not-so-hot note when a friend's mom passed away. I also learned that my next door neighbor, who has been fighting cancer for almost two years, is now considered terminal. I know that her hope is in the Lord and not on earth, but it is still sad to see. She's a good neighbor and a good person who is going out in a sad way.

 The weather has also been phenomenal here in Southern California. There have been a few days of incredibly light drizzling, which have now turned into pretty warm weather. We're getting some blooms on trees even though Spring isn't for another month yet.



 My new Life Group also began this month. We had the kick off at church a few weeks ago. This series is really good. It talks about Breathing Room and boundaries in our lives. (SO needed! So, so, so needed!) I like this group. The people in it seem really great.



 My church started some classes that aren't required for membership but are good to take as their four core ones. I've already taken the membership one (of course) and the spiritual maturity class. I took the volunteering at church class and the leadership class to complete the four core ones this month. I had a disagreement with the pastor running the class though which makes me wonder if I need to rethink some things about being a member at this church. I'm praying on it.

 I also came to some realizations about some things in my life that I need to change. One being my weight. I started weight loss classes with my medical group. I'm reading through the book needed for the class and have to now get 150 minutes per week of exercise. What a step up!

 Happy Love Day to all! 

Saturday, February 7, 2015

Thirty things I learned in my thirties

 Realizations are a fun thing as you age. Here are some I learned from 2004-2014, otherwise known as my thirties:


  1. Travel while you can. Make that your excuse to visit friends in other states. Learn to love learning through travel. 
  2. Staycations are also a cheap way to explore what's around you. I tried that during the summer of 2012 and am glad I did. 
  3. Don't be ashamed when you utter the words, "I can't afford it." There is no shame in knowing your financial limits! Trust me. 
  4. There is nothing shameful with having to live with your family for a bit to save up money. Nothing at all!
  5. Prepare financially for your future. Start that 401K, which you can roll over into an IRA if you get laid off. (Trust me, I know these things...) Save up. 
  6. Hobbies are awesome. Especially if you can try to make money off them also. Try is the key word here....
  7. If you get depressed, therapists will also have you go back to those hobbies to help you get up from the depression. So keep your hobby stuff around, even if you're tempted to toss it some time. 
  8. You need the Lord. Always. Forever. Don't ever think you don't. 
  9. The Lord will bless you when you allow Him consistently in your life. Funny how that works.... 
  10. Family is a funny thing. A really, really funny thing. They can be a blessing sometimes, pushing you to be your best but also not the healthiest people to have around you sometimes-unfortunately. 
  11. Family can also suck on occasion with their ignorance. Family isn't all they're cracked up to be sometimes. 
  12. Traditions are a wonderful thing to keep in your life- as long as they are positive. 
  13. People die. Sad but true. Funerals happen-and will only keep getting worse as you age. 
  14. Don't worry about when you get married. That realization only came to me in my late 30s. Granted, I'd like my eggs to not dry up before I get married, but I've also seen too many marriages of get married just to get married. Those people are now getting divorced. 
  15. I'd also like to have children. From what I hear though, they're kind of expensive, so I'll work on getting married first and having some back up (financially and in other ways) before embarking down that road!
  16. People can be toxic, so choose your friends carefully. I also only unfortunately learned this one in my late 30s. I think we pick friends for a reason though. Maybe we ourselves are going through a toxic season if we choose toxic friends? 
  17. Life sometimes amazingly sucks. You can't fix it. It is what it is. You just have to get through it. 
  18. Jump. Jump. Even if Daddy Mack don't make ya. Sometimes you have to do what you have to do. 
  19. Don't be afraid to talk sometimes. I seriously believe my lack of a filter has been my saving grace from going insane. Of course, have discretion about who you tell stuff to...
  20. Decent health insurance is worth its weight in gold....
  21. I have an aunt who said once, "I will scrub floors before I get rid of my PPO insurance." Sometimes you don't have that option with a group policy, but I understood her sentiments and kind of felt the same way. I switched to an HMO last year and have been pretty happy with it though. Don't be so prideful and not open to change that you aren't willing to accept that it could be better than what you currently have. 
  22. A budget is also worth its weight in gold... 
  23. Don't be prideful about cutting costs. When I think back to before the economy tanking in 2007 and what I wasted my money on, it's amazing. 
  24. It's good to live alone for a little while. 
  25. It's also good to get advice from acquaintances about dating-including trying free sites. That way, you know what you want in a mate when you can finally afford to pay for the decent sites. :p 
  26. It's also good to have decent friends. I can't stress that enough. Family sometimes isn't the be all to end all. 
  27. Be open to listen to others. 
  28. It's also good to be gainfully employed. Try to not lose sight of that one. 
  29. It's okay to switch jobs and even careers, but please stay gainfully employed. 
  30. Please enjoy your thirties-no matter what. You only get one turn around the sun and one chance at this decade in life.