Saturday, December 31, 2011

2011.....in a nutshell

 So the year has finally come to the end. What a year it has been for me!

  •  God has been so good to me career wise this year . It seems unbelievable that at this time last year I had been newly laid off from the recording department at LSI Title and was wondering what my next step was going to be. My BA is in Communications but I honestly thought I could never make a career out of this. Never. I thought that door had been long since closed. Enter March, when I got a bug up my heiny and decided to pursue my freelance writing one more time. I went back to writing my column for Examiner.com. This year has been awesome for my column, which normally covers a nice, quiet city. Another Web site in the city began following me on Twitter then and asked me to come aboard in June because they liked my work. To say I was tickled would be the understatement of the year. A startup publication in the city also asked me to do some articles for them. Score! Also, one of my neighbors who is a reporter for the major newspaper in my area recommended me to his editor as a potential freelancer in the summer. I've been freelancing three days a week for them for almost 5 months now. Things will change career wise. I know that. There are constant ebbs and flows in life, and this will change also. I'm happy with the freelancing I'm doing though, in addition to working for a PR rep one day a week. Wow. I actually have a career that I like. It's nice, actually.

  • I participated in an adult Easter egg hunt: Yes, it was as fun as it sounds. One egg was hidden at a mediterranean restaurant while another was hid at a kinky lingerie shop. The prizes were nice, too! (and normal...)

  • I got the rest of my wisdom teeth pulled. Fun stuff! I had 1 wisdom tooth pulled in 2000 when it got cavity ridden. I didn't have dental coverage at the time, which is why the dentist only pulled 1. Another wisdom tooth got infected this year and was found to be dead. The dentist said to pull it, along with the 3 others I still have. I did that and all is well.

  • I learned that faith can help you get through things family related. My poor father has heart problems and needs bypass surgery. He's refusing it, so I know how he's going to die. The heart surgeon said his heart is in lousy shape and if 1 more artery clogs, he will fall over from a heart attack. It's sad to see this level of denial in him. My sister also provided closure for me this year. It's sad to see what's happening with her. That's all I'll say. God has been good through it all.

  • I went to Pechanga and got home at 4AM. You'd think I was 21 or something! :) My friend Chris and I went to Pechanga in February. We left a 10 and got home at 4 AM. It's nice to know that Pechanga pays out also!

  • I went to the beach. Yes, I know. I live in Orange County, CA. There is nothing unusual about hitting the beach if you live in this county. It had been awhile for me though.

  • I went to a wedding for a couple that met through EHarmony. I've now heard of 2 couples that I knew through church getting married after meeting through that site! It was a nice wedding and reception.
  I would like thank everyone who read this thing for joining me on my Blogger journey. Happy New Year and stick around for my rantings in 2012!

Recapping December



  (These monthly recaps should, ideally have a photo of me at the top of them, but dang, I looked horrific in the only one I took- one without makeup on! Therefore, Christmas lights tree it is!)

 Wow, I really made it through a year of doing these monthly statuses. Yay for me keeping up with something consistently! :)

 This last month was nice. I wasn't laid off, as I was at this time last year, which made it even better. I was also actually working at something I actually enjoyed too. Go me! I did have a day this past month when I wanted to scream at some editors, but that feeling passed and will probably come in waves throughout the coming year. :)

 I also made the choice to spend the holidays doing things I liked doing-making Christmas gift tags, seeing the lights at different locations throughout Southern California, wrapping presents and also spending time remembering the Reason for the Season. I can say that Christmas was mostly what I chose it to be.

 I tried out my friend Debra's church, which had a cool Renaissance theme one weekend. I covered an event at another church in Brea that I may want to try out this weekend to see if I like it.

 I'll definitely do these summaries again in 2012. Onward!

Sunday, December 25, 2011

The tale of Christmas horseradish and other holiday tales known as family

 I'd like to tell you a little story.

 It's all about a little plant in my parents backyard called horseradish and my dad's persistence each year to make horseradish for everyone around him out of these plants.

 I'm shocked that this blender (which is probably 40+ years old) has withstood the grinding each year that my dad puts it through as he grinds up the horseradish. There have been years that he has really gone all out and had my mom get decorative jars to put it in as he gives it to friends and family. This year though, he made it only for Christmas dinner and ground that sucker up and poured vinegar in it as he shouted, "WOO! CLEANIN' OUT THE SINUSES!" :)

 Obviously, today was a good day and also a less stressful time with my parents. The mood was lighter because they were busy. My dad was busy making his traditional horseradish to go on the Christmas roast as my mom got the dinner ready.

 And we all tried the sinus cleaning horseradish with dinner. Mom had the sour cream handy to dilute it. :) It really did go nicely with Mom's roast.



 And then, the tradition of the moving of the gifts began. The gifts have lately sat under this tree:


 Yes, you see that right. My mom places the gifts by the table that holds this little tree, which my Nana bought for my sister and I when we were little. It went in the room that we shared for many years and now sits in the front room of their house each Christmas. Mom places the gifts around the table, and then, we all move them to the living room to open.... As you notice in the picture, there is seating in this room.....You may all think about that as I have many times. Many, many times...


 I couldn't figure out the indoor feature on my camera right then. But you get the idea. I have a quirky family. :) My wrapping got kudos from my mom though. It was cute if I do say so myself. :)



 I figured out the indoor settings on the camera. Yaaay! :)
  And I was also happy to get this:



 PROJECT LIFE! Becky Higgins has always been a genius when it came to scrapbooking, and this invention of hers seems cool also. Let's see if I can even keep up with it this year. With scrapbooking not as big as it once was, I think this is a genius way to keep it alive.

 I hope you all had a Merry Christmas as I did!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

It's a wrap!

 And so, the festivities wind down. It's literally a wrap.


 There's always a plus to buying wrapping paper from kids for their school fundraisers. I still have a few rolls around, so it looks as if Mom got Santa paper this year! :)

 This woman is a friggin genius when it comes to wrapping gifts. I debated using her paper bag idea this year for my dad's gift card, but alas, I only have plastic bags. I may use some of her ideas next year and buy lots of paper bags and have fun with it. Hey, I've got enough tags to last me until I die, so why not include them with my brown paper bags of gifts? :)

  Christmas Eve was stressful this year and slightly sad and showed me why some people need a drink after seeing family over the holidays. It's difficult to be the only child who cares about my elderly parents. Seriously.

 I went to my parents church this evening with my mom. It was a nice service and she thanked me for coming with her, because she didn't want to go alone since Dad wasn't feeling well. You're welcome, Mom. It's Christmas Eve. Either I come now, or it's the 11 o'clock service at my former church. That hour was slightly stressful, to put it nicely.

   I was so nervous when we got back from church. My parents ordered out from Mimi's Cafe for dinner, which was nice. My dad joked with me a bit during dinner that I was being a Christmas kill joy when asking if my Project Life arrived. (Okay, he was right. :) ) I could feel the tenseness though in my shoulders when I got home that evening. It was just stressful. Tomorrow should be interesting!

 And that is why it's so important to create independent holiday traditions. I'm glad to have spent some of the holiday this year seeing the lights, decorating and creating those tags that I'll probably never get rid of. It was fun, and I'll have to expand on that next year and in the years to come, also remembering the Reason for the Season.

 Until then, it's a wrap!

Sunday, December 18, 2011

They're done! Yaaaaay!!!!


 I was seriously dragging this year getting my Christmas cards out. Dragging with a capital D! I don't know why, either!

 I used to get my Christmas cards out on December 1st each year. Now y'all will be lucky to get them by Christmas. ;) I used to also stamp out my cards that had a zillion areas to color once stamped. I think age brings wisdom, because stamping seriously went out the window after I discovered the beauty of scrapbooking supply usage on Christmas cards. Cut, affix, done became my new mantra for many years for cards. This year though was actually the simplest I've probably ever gone for cards. Pre-made card meets Christmas themed paper meets computer printed saying and DONE!

 I like this holiday tradition also but see that it's kind of a pain in the you-know-what when you actually have a job and a life. I think that's why many people just send email holiday greetings now or do those computer generated photo-ish cards.

 And figuring out who you send these cards to is also a pain in the you-know-what also! I kept thinking of the little Christmas card address book my mom had for years as I addressed my cards today. What a good idea! Granted, I can do the same thing on Excel, but what a good idea! I guess I'm becoming my mother... :)

 At least they're done!

Monday, December 12, 2011

The good, the bad and the tacky....otherwise known as a display of Christmas lights

 I think I'm done seeing Christmas lights this year. Last night's fix was just more than enough.

 So my friend Debra wanted to show me a cute neighborhood right by Chapman University in Old Town Orange. I had never been to this street before of gorgeous old homes. I guess that the neighbors decide on a theme each year for Christmas lights. One block went patriotic while the other did a candy cane theme. Here is the patriotic theme:


 This is when I told Debra that I wanted to take a picture of the street and hopped out of the car. I was just going to be one second, but nooooo, she dropped me off and kept moving. She had joked to me earlier on that I needed to walk home from Orange, but dang! LOL!

 The trees in front of each house had red, white and blue lights wrapped around each of them.

 This house on the block was personally the coolest display of lights I had ever seen. What a great patritoic display they did! Hope they take it all out for the 4th! LOL!

 As soon as I got done taking this picture I hear a scream on the other side of the street, "KIM-BER-LY! GET IN THE CAR!" I guess she likes me after all. :)

 Okay, so now that we've seen the good of Christmas light displays, let's go over to the ohmygoshiwouldneverdothatmuchwork displays. These are all taken in a housing development in Brea, CA, which is one city away from me. They are neat to see and honestly, I just loved it last year. This housing development goes all out at Christmas and the city even gives tours on their trolleys of the lights. All I kept thinking this year though was that I wouldn't be that motivated to do all that work that the following folks do. Some of it though is beyond comprehension. Take a look and see:


 Now this house is nice and understated. What I want to know though is who puts the star at the top of the tree??? Do you hire someone to put it up, along with the lights? Or do they get dangerous once a year and put it all up themselves??? Inquiring minds are curious!


 Meet California Frosty. California Frosty was TALL. In fact, he was one story tall of that 2-story house. California Frosty looks like spray-painted sagebrush, which is cool, but my question is this: Where on earth do you store California Frosty once Christmas is over with??? Or is he dismantled and you begin the fun again next year??? Inquiring minds want to know!

 And then....there's THIS house. This house is what I like to affectionately term Ton O'C***. Talk about Christmas overkill!!! I really should shut my mouth though, because I loved seeing it last year. It's just overkill in my opinion, though. Not only are the inside of the garages decorated for Christmas, but they offer tours of THE INSIDE OF THE HOUSE, which is FILLED with Christmas stuff. I mean FILLED!!!! What I want to know is where in the heck do they store all of this once Christmas is over with? They'd have to rent a storage space!


 Here is a portion of the front of the house.....


 And the garage....

 And so, this is the story of the Christmas lights this year. Maybe now that I'm done seeing these I can get my cards out. ;)

Friday, December 9, 2011

it never grows old.....


 It just never grows old to look at this tree. Never, ever, ever.

 This tree of Christmas lights stands atop a high rise building in Whittier, CA-the city that I like to call Nixon town. Richard Nixon grew up in Whittier, and this tree, as a matter of fact, stands not too far from the house he lived in and Quaker church he attended as a boy.

 I decided to snap a picture of it the other night after I left my parents house one city away. Yes, I wasted gas and drove out of the friggin way to snap a picture of a tree made out of lights. That's me! :)

 This tree has stood atop this building for ages. I'm (COUGH!) 37, and I always remember it standing there when the building was owned by a bank-American Savings, I believe. My grandparents lived not too far from here, so whenever my mom would take us there, we of course would have to drive by the tree of lights and she'd always tell us, "Look girls! Look at the Christmas tree of lights!"

 I love to look at this tree every year and hope the multi-colored tree never leaves. It really never grows old.

 Never, ever, ever....

Tag factory in progress!

  The tag factory is in full production at my place!

 I have over 100 tags that I hope to sell this weekend at a craft fair at a junior high school by me. I dragged out my tag template and got out my red and green cardstock and went to town! The end result is over 100 tags that I hope will be tied to many presents around local Christmas trees this holiday season-and recycled for many years to come!


 Now that the front design has been done, the letter stamps need to come out for some of them (not the snowflake ones) to stamp "to" and "from" on them. Hole punching and ribbon tying will be next and then it's the home stretch-sticking them in bags to be sold! Yay! :)

 I had forgotten how much fun it was to make these for the Christmas season. I think my neighbor had a great idea to make all the same thing and bag them up. Let's see though if others feel the same way. :)

 Here's to traditions though. May they continue on.....

Friday, December 2, 2011

Sparkleballs!

 



 The town I live in has a street that does the coolest lights display every Christmas. I tried to capture the scene above, with some success, but it just really doesn't capture the sweet Dr. Seussness of it all.

 The street does a display of Sparkleballs every year that they hang from their front yard trees that is just the coolest thing ever. Literally, these home made, sparkly balls glisten in the trees of every house on the street. It's a wonderful sight to see on a wintry California evening. The adjoining street has now taken up the project also doing a whitish group of sparkleballs that are cool also. I found out about this street probably 2 years ago and think it's an awesome tradition to see.

 I took this picture while working with my camera settings. :( This is a house on one of the sparkly streets that has a radio controlled light display. It really is neat. Really! :)

 It's cool to see these things at Christmas.  

Thursday, December 1, 2011

That Christmasy feeling

 I just can't do it. I just can't.

 I can't decorate the day after Thanksgiving!

 It just seems so un Christmasy and un holiday like to put all the decorations up the day after Thanksgiving. I feel like I need time to recoup-at least until December 1st. And so, that's what I did. The wreath went up today.

 I would love to get one of those big. gorgeous Williams Sonoma wreaths some year, but for now, I have this cute little wreath I picked up at a white elephant exchange probably 10 years ago. It's cute and I'll always cherish it as the first wreath I ever put up in my own home.

 I also put up my manger scene. It's not Christmas without that up! I don't forget the Reason for the Season and hope others don't either.



  I don't have a tree because I feel no need for it, so I guess this is my substitute. My mom made this for me roughly 5 years ago and I take a picture down each year to hang this up. It's cute and works for now.

 And so, this begins my holiday season. I hope this season is better than last year's. I remembered thinking that I was going to postpone Christmas shopping because I worked and worked overtime and then POOF! The workload stopped and 20 of us got laid off. Shows me for postponing my Christmas shopping! ;) (Seriously though, that was a blessing in disguise, because God had far better plans for me.)

 I hope all of you are having fun decorating for the holidays also!

November recap of funness


The month of November flew by! December is upon us!

 November was pretty uneventful. I mean, it was pretty boring if I do say so myself. Possibly the most unique thing I did was have Korean bbq with a friend. I don't think I've ever tried it before, so I thought it was cool how you cook the food right at the table. See how boring I am? LOL.

 Work for the major paper in my area continued on. I'm going into my fourth month with them and did some interesting stories for them this month. One thing that I'll remember is covering a Veteran's Day ceremony that had a survivor of the USS Oklahoma as their main speaker. Yes, the USS Oklahoma of Pearl Harbor fame. I also did another article about a unique educational program applying to become the first ever charter school in a city.

 Turkey Day was Turkey Day. I know that sounds funny, but it was what it was. It began with a call from my mom in the morning asking me to do a store run. I had to laugh, because the woman could have hopped in the car and did it herself in less time than it took me to drive over to give her the stuff for dinner! Call me nice daughter, but I did it. I had dinner with my folks (It was literally my parents and I. That's it.) and then saw my dad's relatives who live nearby in a cute, cute area. No Black Friday shopping for me, though! If you can believe it, a Facebook friend of mine actually got her arm broken during a Black Friday incident she had with a guy who wanted the toy she rightfully got for her daughter. He could care less, so he broke her arm to get it! How nuts is that?

 And the gift tag production began also! Pictures to come!

Sunday, November 27, 2011

tag, tag, everywhere a tag.......

 One of the things I've missed with the collapse of the economy is making these at Christmas time:




 Yep, Christmas gift tags. I know I mentioned in my previous post that I have to choose a new reality when it comes to celebrating the holidays. That includes the enjoyable, such as making these again. I like this Christmas tradition, so here I am again!

 I've experimented a lot on these suckers through the years, selling a lot of them at work and also to neighbors. Craft fairs were pretty profitable for me also. I pulled back in recent years due to the economy though, which slightly saddened me because I love to create things by hand. People would buy these en mass before the economy tanked, but after that, they would walk right by them at a craft fair and pick one up, gasp, say "OH! HOW CUUUUUTE," put it down and walk on. This happened so often that I simply quit selling them.

 It wasn't until recently while at work that I heard that someone did fairly well at a major craft fair in my area. I was also given a different idea by a neighbor that was quite a good suggestion. One of my neighbors followed through on the Facebook handmade challenge at the beginning of the year (and also reminded me to get my own hand made items out in the mail from that challenge) and suggested something to me as we were chatting after giving me the gorgeous scarf he knitted.

 Why don't you mass produce all of the same kind of tags and sell them in packets?

 DUH!!!! Why didn't I think of that before? Those that I have sitting in bins pictured above will of course be in a separate container for people to pick through, but otherwise, I'll take that suggestion to heart-and continue cutting out more tags.

 And hopefully this year, I'll hear cha-ching!

Friday, November 25, 2011

Turkey Day

I know, I know...You're thinking what the hell is this picture of Kim doing at the top of a post about Thanksgiving. Me on Turkey Day. :)

Turkey Day is just so weird as an adult. With all my grandparents in heaven, it has taken on a completely different form and I have to learn to forge a new reality and choose to celebrate in a way that I see fit.

 We'd go to my maternal grandparents home for Thanksgiving when I was a kid. My grandparents constructed a room in the back specifically for family dinners. It would be my parents, sister and me (and her husband after she got married), my aunt and her family and my uncle and his family. My aunt and her family lived in Northern California, and bless their perseverance, they'd leave Thanksgiving Eve by car after my uncle would get off work to make the drive to Southern California. That's crazy to think about now as an adult, but every year it would be their tradition to pack up the damn car and drive down, stopping at Harris Ranch along the way to have dinner. They always got a shocked response from my parents leaving at 6 p.m. Thanksgiving Eve to make the drive to Southern California, but honestly, I admire their perseverance to create tradition and see family that weekend.

 Grandma passed away 8 years ago-and so did Thanksgiving dinner with the extended family. It's good to have memories, because that's all I've got now.

 Even though relationships are....interesting....on that side of the family, I miss the crowd of people around on Thanksgiving. I miss helping to make the pilav and experimenting with making appetizers. I miss my uncle experimenting with turkey making. I still laugh about the year that he began barbecueing the turkey. I thought he burned a perfectly good turkey because the skin was black! (It was fine.)

 Forging a new celebrating reality is difficult when it comes to holidays as an adult. My sister doesn't celebrate with us, so it's usually my parents and I having Thanksgiving dinner alone. To be nice, it was just very silent last year, which to me is not a happy way to spend any holiday. This year, though, I chose to put a tweak in the plans because I honestly wanted it to be a somewhat happy holiday.

 I had to laugh, because I got a phone call from my mom in the morning asking me to do a store run for Thanksgiving dinner. I live 15 minutes away, mind you, so she could have hopped in the car, driven to the store and gotten the three items herself in less time than it would have taken me to drive to her house! Call me nice daughter though, because I went and got the friggin bacon for the brussel sprouts dish, the Kitchen Bouquet (No one knows what that is anymore!) and the almond milk. Thank goodness for cell phones, because I actually called my mom while standing in front of the almond milk wondering what kind she wanted! (Don't ask. You get smarter as you get older is all I'll say...)

 I had dinner with my parents and  decided to make another stop this year before I went home. One of my dad's cousins and his wife are trying to make Thanksgiving a family get-together and I really wish I would have gone to see them last year instead of sitting through a dinner at my parents house that was honestly not happy. My second cousin said he missed seeing me, which of course was an awesome feeling last year. They extended the same invitation this year, and so I went to see them before heading home. They run a wedding planning center, so they had dinner at their super cute location in a quaint downtown area. It was nice to stop in and talk to them for a few minutes before heading home. That section of town that they have their location at is so happy and quaint and is decorated for Christmas!  I went through the nearby driving circle and snapped a picture of this at the center of it:


 This would have normally been a damn stupid thing to do, but I stopped the car, took a pic and went on my way. It's just cute!

 Boring holiday for the most part, but forging a new reality involves learning as you go. Choice is kind of cool. Choice with tradition during the holidays is awesome. I don't know if choice will ever involve going shopping at 3 AM on Black Friday.... Never say never though.

 Choice is kinda cool.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

11 days and not much to say

I'm pretty boring and these last 11 days prove that.

I really don't have much to report! Probably the most unique thing that I did over the past week and-a-half was try a Korean barbeque with a friend. Pretty good stuff and it's cool how you cook the food right at the table, but see how boring I am?  LOL.

 So, hopefully my next update will be more interesting. :)

Saturday, November 5, 2011

Tag-a-palooza


 When the economy was good, I used to sell these suckers at Christmas time at craft boutiques and to friends and family and would even make a profit.

 And then, the economy tanked and disposable income went down the toilet. Therefore, I stopped selling them because people weren't buying.

 I decided to try again and will be in a craft show next month, but this time, will take the logical approach. I'm not going to do what I did above and make tags of all different kinds, but will instead mass produce about a zillion of the same thing.

 Pics to come!

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

October fun.......


So I made it through another month in non-creamable fashion. Yippeeeee!

October was a blessing in some ways and sad in others. I started helping a PR rep 1 day a week for 4 hours, which is cool. It's a great way to learn. I also still have my freelancing job at the major paper, for however long that lasts.

 I went to San Diego at the beginning of the month with my mom. We had to take care of some family business that was sad, but gave me some closure to know the reality of certain situations.

 I also participated for a craft show for the first time in ages. My friend Kelly and I participated in a fair in Tustin, and I did okay. I'm going to try again next month, but this time at a craft fair close to me. I'll see how many of my gift tags will selll this time.

 And of course, it was my birthday. I didn't do much, but I did treat myself to a mani/pedi, which I think I haven't gotten in 5 years. Ohhh, was I overdue!

 And so, that was my month. It was less stressful in many ways, as I had no freak out moments. I'm expecting November to be that way also, and probably December also. The fun may begin at the beginning of the year.

 Onto November!

Sunday, October 30, 2011

The people I meet

I got to thinking about the people I've met since I changed paths job wise. Some I now wish I hadn't met while others are pretty damn cool. Some of them include:

 The paparazzi who camped out in Octomom's neighborhood. They were sleazy, sleazy people, but interesting to talk to. Who knew that one picture could be worth so much?

 And others simply include the simple and mundane, such as that cool photographer with the unique, creative perspective that makes you think. There's also the owners of the lingerie store in my city (who sell a lot of sex toys at that store also) who got served with a civil lawsuit while I was talking to them. Yeah, that's a new one.....

 All in all, it's just cool to be doing something exciting instead of what I did before-survived. It's cool to meet interesting people and hear their stories. 

it's my birthday, it's my birthday.......

 So yesterday was my birthday. Just thought I'd announce it. :)



I didn't do much for it. I think that one year I'll want to take a trip to Tahiti or somewhere else exciting to celebrate it. This year though, I did other less expensive stuff.

 Like a birthday mani


 and a birthday pedi.

 I hadn't gotten those 2 things done in a couple of years. When times were good in real estate, I'd consistently get them done once a month. If I also had to go to a wedding, I'd get them done then also. Had to justify! So anyway, it was fun to do........

 Happy Birthday to me. :)

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Nothin' like a good belly rub....


 "When I get lost, feel I've been crossed
   She will be my salvation
   When I feel low, I've nowhere to go
   She'll be my inspiration

  Yeah, when my poor heart is breakin’ apart
  She’ll put it back together
  She ain’t the kind to show off her mind
  But talkin’ of love she’s clever, yeah

 Oh...honey
 (Talkin’ ‘bout you, honey)
 Oh...honey
 (Honey)"


 Delegation-Oh Honey  

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

what's happenin'


 Been having an okay week so far. How about all of you?

 I went to an Oktoberfest at a local college and they had this cool tree art there. I wondered how the woman made it!

 I'm preparing for my birthday this weekend. I think I want to do a mani pedi, since I haven't gotten them in forever. I should probably make an appointment to get it done at a place where they actually speak English. I can't stand it when the Asian manicurists are talking smack about you right in front of your face. The Caucasian manicurists cost a little bit more, but the price of knowing that the person I'm paying to do work on me isn't talking smack about me is worth that. :) I know it's non-pc to admit that, but it's the truth.

 Until next time!

Friday, October 21, 2011

and I have to eat right too....

So going along with the revelation of the previous post that I need to exercise comes another sucky revelation.

 I need to eat right too. :( Damn those fates!

 I've always had a weight problem. That has never been an issue. I don't know why that is. Probably bad habits learned as a kid, since my parents only developed weight problems as adults. We ate lots of good stuff, and now, it seems to be catching up with me.

 I've been successful twice in losing weight also. Only twice. The first time was when I was 18 and getting out of high school and going into college. I lost roughly 70 pounds through Weight Watchers and kept it off for 5 years. I'd say I was successful, wouldn't you?

 The second time was a few years ago. I entered a program through my local medical group called HMR and lost 86 pounds. I started gaining it back when I began working nights for a local foreclosure company because the medical group by me had no classes for me to attend since I would now have to be at work by 3 p.m. each day. They sent me to classes by a local medical school that quite honestly were quite extreme. It was the same program, but this group ran it extremely strictly. Drink only shakes, they said. Um, no thank you!

 And so, now that the polycystic diagnosis has come to light, I guess logic is dictating that I go back to the less expensive program and more practical program, Weight Watchers. I mean, I could just lie to myself and say, "Hey, I don't have the painful cysts associated with pcos, so don't worry about losing weight," (hahahaha!!!) but I know better. I looked up the other effects of this disorder-yikes! You could become diabetic, have an increased risk for certain cancers. The list is never ending.

 I'm comin' back, healthy eating and exercising!

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

exercise :(

 I want to cry. Why?

 I have to exercise. :(

 So I apparently have polycystic ovarian syndrome. I'm fat and the hair on my arms that recently started growing in kind of gave it away. It's apparently not at a horrendously bad level though according to the bloodwork, which gives me hope. And how do I solve this problem, you ask?

 I have to lose weight and exercise. Booo!!!!!!! Hiss!!!!!!!

 A friend's wife has this wonderful condition, which is otherwise known as PCOS. She had a difficult time getting pregnant and cured it in the most simple way-she lost weight, got pregnant, gained it back once the baby came, lost it again, got pregnant again, had baby number 2 and stopped. :)  The author of another blog I read also has it and lost 50 pounds and wouldn't you know it, got pregnant.

 I'm not trying to get pregnant, but I think the point has been made.  Lose weight and exercise=less health problems. It's no fun to exercise because you puff and pant and get all sweaty if you're working hard enough. I need to figure out something to do though that is fun exercise for me. I need to do this.

 So what should I do? Swim? Walk? Gym? No running though. I don't want to look like more of an ass than I probably already do when I exercise.

 Consistency with exercising is a serious issue with me though. I have to be consistent at this. I guess it's something I need to work at.

 I don't want to though. :(

Monday, October 17, 2011

I did WHAT at what hour of the morning??

 I can't believe I did it. I answered work emails at 5:30 this morning!

 Yes, you may all fall over in shock. I actually did something work related that damn early in the morning! I know! I got up then for some odd reason and thought what the hell, why not answer emails since I'm awake anyway? So, I replied to work emails and went back to bed.

 I would have thought that was crazy a few years ago. After all, today is my day off from that job, so therefore, that means not thinking about them today. Right? Not when you enjoy what you do.

 I think being an independent contractor is a very good fit right now in my life. I actually enjoy what I do-and I guess it kind of shows if I actually am crazy enough to answer my emails at 5 friggin 30 in the morning and on a day off too! I truly didn't mind answering these emails then. Wow! Change from a few years ago? Um, yeah!

 I guess when you are working at something that is a good fit for you, it shows. And that is good.

Sunday, October 16, 2011

fresh, natural and (relatively) cheap?


 It's pretty damn rare for me to find a place to eat where I really like the food. I mean, really like the food. I found it though at this place, G Burger, in my hometown!

 G Burger is ran by a Greek family that just really knows what they are doing. All the ingredients are fresh and natural and are in jars like these that line the counters and cases for all to see.


 And the funny thing is that the one thing that I love eating there is not hamburgers, but instead something relatively healthy (GASP!!! I know!)-their Chicken Caesar Salad.



 It's pretty darned natural. The chicken is grilled, the croutons are baked on site, freshly grated cheese and capers are also on the salad too. The dressing is also made on site and is good too. I just love this salad! Better than that, I can call from home to order it and go pick it up. It's on the other end of town from my parents house, which means it's closer to my home.

 Doesn't it look good too?





Sunday, October 9, 2011

Odd stuff.....

 It's odd. It's just odd stuff.

 I swear that it's very hard to get an answer from Blogger for anything! Are there even tech support people for Blogger? I have a question and I think that my question could be answered so easily if I just had someone to talk to over the phone or via email. One more incident like this and I'll be headed back to Wordpress. At least they get back to you in a timely manner!

 I'm also finding that I can actually comment now on Blogger blogs if I do something odd. I have to reset my password every five seconds! I don't know if it's my computer or what! It's just odd as hell.

 Does anyone else have Blogger issues too?  

Sunday, October 2, 2011

When brutal honesty does nothing....

 I was so sad today. I was also angry.

 My mom and I took a trip to San Diego this weekend, but not for fun. It was to confront my sister and let her know that she needs to seek help. She will be fired from her job soon if she doesn't seek treatment in some form. (We honestly don't know what the issue is but know she needs help.) Her boss and every one of her co-workers have noticed an issue for over a year. It shocks me that action hasn't been taken before now.  She's a government employee, if that explains anything.

 I honestly hadn't spoken to her in almost 6 months before today. My sister was shocked upon seeing us and wondered why we came. My mom said her peace and we left. It just amazed me that I got a call from my sister after we got home asking why I needed to drive our mother down to see her. Why couldn't she say her peace over the phone? What really got me was that she accused me of allowing our parents to monopolize my time! Hello! I am the only one they have, as my mother so sadly told me a few nights ago. I got very angry as my sister told me that over the phone and decided to end the conversation, as she tried to bait me into an argument. I tried to honestly share things with her, to no avail. The denial was just horrendous. Even her boss has noticed the incredible denial and is shocked also.

 All we can do is pray now. Boundaries have been set, so only prayer can save things now.

September update




So September is gone and now my birthday month is underway. Yay, yet wowee also.

 September was hard in many respects. It was a stressful month that had me making bad choices as a result of said stress. I was worried on all fronts. I was worried about my dad's heart issues until his cousin said to me that I needed to stop and simply accept his decision to not have bypass surgery. She is right, and I have. My sister's issues also cropped up also though, and that got me angry, which shocked me.

 Work also stressed me out in many ways. You can really say that I'm learning all over again. I may have been a Comm major in college, but since I was in escrow for so long, I'm really relearning this again. I think that a lot of my bad choices came from family stress. I really do. I made a dumb choice at one event that made me look bad at one freelance job, even though I didn't write the article for them. It really was unintentional, but it still got me gossipped about at work. I also nearly got creamed due to some other stupidity. Fun stuff! I hope October is less drama filled for work. :(

  I also went to Darin and Donna's wedding. What a great couple! They give me hope! Darin and Donna met through EHarmony.com and knew that God meant for them to be together. Their wedding was at our church and the reception at this nice place in Santa Ana. The parking was horrific, but I liked the place. And the centerpieces at the reception were wedding cake pinatas! They were cool!

 Onto October! What should I do to celebrate my birthday month?

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Interesting past couple of weeks.....

 I haven't figured out yet how to get that other blog down. I also can't answer blog comments now either. I posted a question on the Blogger forum about this, so hopefully I get a response soon.

 It has been an interesting past couple of weeks. I take that back, it has been a crazy past couple of weeks. Crazy with a capital C. I am nobody in the scheme of things, yet some people seem to think I am. To say that I'm cautious is the understatement of the year. It may even affect my freelancing job at a major local publication. You locals reading this will know what I'm talking about....

 Otherwise though, things have been normal. I went to Darin and Donna's wedding a few weeks ago.


 It was a great wedding and the reception was at a cute, unique place. They are a good couple matched by God. I especially liked the centerpieces-wedding cake pinatas!


 I can't believe that October will rear its head soon. The year will soon be over? Yikes!  
 Hope all of you have had a less dramatic month than I have!

Thursday, September 1, 2011

August fun


 This is the only non-work related picture I took during August. LOL!

 August was a busy month with work, work, work. Lots of freelance writing is coming my way, which is a blessing from God. I would say that probably the most interesting article I did this month was for the major paper in my area where I interviewed a Japanese woman whose father and grandfather took photos while they were in an internment camp. Those were the greatest photos ever. I really saw something unique.

 I also hope to never go through this again. Stupid me forgot to apply for health insurance before my COBRA ran out and so I went for the month without health insurance. I prayed to not be hit by a car or land in the hospital during that time. And I just breathed a huge sigh of relief as I saw midnight roll around. Ahhhh, insurance again.

 I also went to a wedding reception for a work acquaintance. She is a sweetheart and it was fun to meet people that I have talked to over the phone for work purposes.

 And of course, there were the issues with my parents. The anxiety is through the roof right now because of that.

 Here's to September. I pray that it's a fun-filled, no stress month. Probably not reality though considering what's happening.

Sigh....More "fun" on the aging parents front

 It's not good. It's just not good.

 My mom and dad have officially become stress cases since they were informed that bypass surgery was needed-and are trying to drag me along for the ride. They're slightly succeeding, but not completely.

 The battery in Mom's car died at the hospital, and AAA had to come and help her out. Of course the AAA guy had to suggest that someone tampered with their car at the hospital when they valet parked the car. (Can I roll my eyes now? Can't their battery just die?) She tried to start it up the next day and it didn't start, so she asked me to take them to the heart surgeon's appointment. No problem, just let me clean out my back seat. Oh no, my mom said, don't worry about cleaning out your back seat. Just take him yourself. Oh yeah, and your dad is refusing to have the surgery. Yeah, I'm having fun.......

 "I can't handle it," she said to me. "I just can't handle it!"

 So, I take him to the appointment (to which he tries to not go....yeah, fun stuff) and he tells the doctor within the first few minutes that he is adamant from the beginning that he wants no surgery. The doctor said okay, I guess that's that. I looked at the doctor with a shocked look, and he said that your dad says he's adamant that he wants no surgery. He told me that the family should not convince him to have it and said that patients who are convinced to have it very often end up psychologically doing more harm than good to themselves and develop complications as a result that will kill them. He gave an example that was appropriate to Dad-he had a patient once who refused the surgery initially, but her family and cardiologist convinced her to go through with it. She comes through the surgery fine, but has to go on dialysis temporarily, to which she refuses. She died of renal failure as a result. (I guess that Dad's kidneys are not so hot, according to the nuclear stress test done. I can see this happening with him.)

 I asked the doctor what other options there may be. Stents are a possibility, but it won't solve the problem, he said. I also asked how long he had to live without bypass surgery, which he doesn't know. He said though that if one more artery gets clogged, he'll drop dead from a heart attack. Dad will need several bypasses, I guess. The doctor told me that his heart is in lousy shape. Lousy. (I personally think this was the best way for him to get out of telling us that he probably couldn't handle the surgery anyway. I wondered if he could even survive something like that.)

 It was the quickest doctor's visit ever and when I got up from the chair in the doctor's office, I looked like I wanted to cry. I caught a glimpse of the doctor as I turned around to walk out, and he looked at me with compassion. I think the doctor was right to end things because of my dad's refusal and also see his point that if there are other complications, he would probably refuse treatment.

 However, now that we head into today, the fear is coming out. Why couldn't someone have sat down with my dad and explained things to him to help ease his mind? The hospital that he'll potentially have surgery at has a nurse navigator program for cancer treatments where they will sit and discuss everything with you. Why couldn't someone have done that with Dad? There are no options now. It's pretty bad from what I've been told, but can a human face be put on this from the medical community and compassion be exercised?

 Dad is making excuses right now of everything under the sun to not have this surgery, and I also learned that he hasn't been taking his Lipitor. (I wanted to scream when I heard that.) Mom isn't helping matters much either. Oh did I yell at her for not going to the doctor's appointment. I told her that it was her responsibility to go to these things and to not pass off the stress onto me. I help them out a lot and felt taken advantage of in a way because of this. I couldn't believe it when she asked me after my hissy fit to take my dad someplace else at that moment. Oh did I refuse right then. They have two cars, by the way.

 I can tell that I'm nervous as heck as a result now. I've been talking to friends about this, and one said to me that she's concerned for my mom if my dad does have bypass surgery, because the recovery is horrible. Imagine how stressed out she'll be then. A neighbor also said that he thinks I'll have to help and miss some work. That got to me. 

 I emailed my sister after talking to my neighbor and asked her to call me to discuss our dad. We haven't spoken for almost five months now, but I need to tell her that she will help out if indeed he does have this done. There will be no excuse. I know she lives a few hours away and hasn't seen my parents in months also and talks to them infrequently. I would rather not see her, but considering that I have taken both parents now to doctor's appointments and even took a day off work once five years ago when my dad was very sick to go with them to a doctor's visit because no doctor was listening to them, I figure the least she can do is take vacation time and come help for something this serious. I've had this discussion before with her over something else less serious with them that she needed to help out with and oh did I hear it from her. There is no arguing this time though. None.

 So, all we can do is pray and hope for the best. God moves in mysterious ways, and I pray that He will do so here also and help me not scream every five seconds.

 Or I can prepare for the inevitable. It's all a choice.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

It's no fun having aging parents........

 My dad can't have a stent. Bypass surgery.

 When I called the hospital this afternoon after my dad's angiogram, I spoke with my mom and she said it and I was in shock. Wow. It really is that bad.  The cardiologist apparently said though that his arteries are in good shape. Some good news?

 I had to take care of things at my parents house and spoke to the neighbors across the street and told them. And I heard about people in their 80s having bypass surgery. And then, I went to the hospital.

 They were checking Dad's carotid arteries with an ultrasound when I walked in the room. I saw blockages and blood flow. I saw the nurse check the circulation in one leg and didn't find a whole lot. Dad had to go then, so I left the room and the nurse came to the room. He was polite and waited outside, which was when I ambushed him. Remind me to never do that again.......

 I whispered to the nurse that I thought he was pretty bad. Am I right or wrong? He first said oh no, no, no and that the doctor should explain. And then, he started talking. No intervention was done during the angiogram, he said. The word "yeah" came out of his mouth then-a lot-and a look. My mom came around the corner then and I shut up. She asked me what he said and I lied. Really, nothing much, but his actions spoke volumes.

 The hospital actually made the appointment for the surgeon TOMORROW. Holy crud, how bad can it be? I need to pray right now because I don't have a good feeling about all this.

 It just truly sucks.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

the great church search.........

 My friends probably rolled their eyes upon seeing the title of this post.

 It's a never ending problem for me. I am never happy for many years in the church I go to. A Mormon friend even wondered if maybe she needed to send the missionaries to talk to me. Nah. :) I wonder why I do this? I know that sometimes, it's simply God calling me to move on, while at other times I'd just really like to know why I don't like the church.

 I'm actually a little bit disgusted with the pastor of the church I've been going to. He took over the helm probably two years ago, and has done a good job. In fact, I'd say that he has done a fantastic job in many respects. When you look at him though, you sense that he's going to turn the church into the Crystal Cathedral. I just get that sense and always have. He denigrated the word pastor once, which was odd, but he gave a great explanation for it. He did something recently though that made me know that it's time to move on once again. A black man in the church would always praise God out loud during the service. It never bothered me, but apparently it bothered someone. He was told to stop praising God out loud because he was too distracting......

 I find that sad and morally reprehensible that a church would tell someone that. I don't believe that said black man (who is now at a different church) is making it up either. If you looked at the pastor, you'd sense that he'd put someone up to telling him that.

 And there are other things about the church also that get me feeling that it's time to move on. I won't lie. I really hate this. I wish I could be one of those people that could stay at a church until I die. It just never works out that way for me though.

 I attended this church for the first time when I was in college, as it's across the street from my alma mater. It provided a great need for me spiritually and also had a humongous College group. The college group was 700 strong, and we broke off and formed our own church where I was baptized as an adult and really strengthened my faith. I became disenchanted with the church though a few years after we broke off. It was a myriad of reasons, actually. The head pastor (whom I love, mind you) must have been going through something because every message had him in tears. And then 9/11 came.......

 The British assistant pastor gave the message after 9/11 and I was shocked when he said that Americans were too concerned about themselves! I actually walked out of church when I heard him say that. Yes, I was that mad. I e-mailed him the next day and asked why he would say that. I felt that was just plain wrong after such a horrific event. The pastor was shocked that I was upset and attached his message to the e-mail so that I could read it. I did-and the words were still there. We agreed to disagree and I felt that I could not go back to a church where in my opinion, my country was being denigrated. So, I went back to the church we broke off from. It's really sad to see this church now. It's a shell of its former self and is on its third name change. Friends of mine who had moved told me that they completely supported and understood why I went back to the church we broke off from. They said that if they wouldn't have moved that they would have joined me back at the church we broke off from, as did a lot of other people.

 So, I went back to the church we broke off from and it felt right.  I joined a singles group that was just the right size for me, and I am friends with many of these people to this day. I joined the women's group also and really felt my walk strengthen. And then, many people in the singles group began to get married and the pastor for our group seemed to lose his zeal. I began to flake and wouldn't go on Sundays. Something told me to move on. Again.......

 I started going to the singles group at another big church in the same city. The guy who ran it was great. I made friends again and I enjoyed the preaching in the evening services. And then, the evening services went away, our meeting locations changed and I just broke away. Only one person cared to call me or come over to see me. And I went back to the other church down the street again. This is really laughable, isn't it?! 

 By this time, the current pastor had taken over and everyone was loving him. The church had even helped me out with something that I won't mention. I was grateful, to put it mildly. I keep going, but honestly, I just don't feel a connection there anymore. 

 One of my neighbors and also someone that I went to one of the singles groups with suggested a church a few cities away. I said why not. My neighbor made a lot of friends in this group before getting married and loved it. Nice church, nice building, but the leadership core actually did some things that the pastor got mad at them about-in front of everybody. Even though the activities were great, I just really got the sense that there was no spirit in the group. I felt that it was just a big cattle call.

 One positive thing I have done is stayed in the same small group since January. :) This group is part of one of the former singles groups I was in and I love them all. We are about the same age and I am just so happy to do life with them. And yes, we are all in different churches!

 So.... once again, I search. Am I just not searching for a good, consistent bible believing church but am going to church for only the singles group? Am I making decisions too quickly about church and then regretting them later? I wonder about that. I am praying to God to show me the way and help me not just be at a church for a few years and up and move again.

 How do you all know when you have found a good church to attend?

  


Friday, August 5, 2011

Aging parents-the hard parts of life.....

 One of my dad's cousins called me this evening, and when she hung up, I called my parents house because Dad really needs to speak with her. She has Stage 4 breast cancer which has spread to her lungs. It's just not good.

 It was then that my mom told me about the cardiologist's appointment. My dad was diagnosed with Congestive Heart Failure about a year ago, so the appointment itself wasn't a shock. He goes every couple of months. Judging by medical tests, things that the doctor has told my parents and my own internet research, I've come to realize that he's winding down. I knew it, but I didn't want to accept it because I have honestly seen improvement. That is, until today.

 Dad recently had a stress test done. Oh, did my 76-year-old father tell me all about that one... And the results, I guess, were not good. Further testing will have to be done to see if a stent can be put in, the doctor said today. It's not the stent that is saddening me, because a former boss of mine has several. It's other things.  

 I'm just sad that life is progressing for Dad, along with this illness. I'll admit that I'm also selfish and sad for me. I'm sad that my father hasn't walked me down the aisle yet or seen grandchildren. He has done well for himself and done a lot in life, but I just wish he could see that. I know he'd love grandchildren. And I honestly don't know if he will see them in his lifetime. 

 I always got along better with my dad than my mom. I spent a lot of time with him growing up and have a lot of good memories because of that. Dad is kind, loving and accepting. I learned how important family is because of his example. He emulates Christ-like behavior. He's just a really good man who is honestly loved by all.

 And I'm sad that he can't live forever.

 I'm not scared of where Dad will go in the after life. Dad is saved and has a personal relationship with Jesus. I know I'll see him again one day whenever his time comes to leave this earth.

 I just feel like I haven't done enough to make him proud of me. Only now are things truly getting better for me career wise. I haven't found someone like my dad to marry. I have no children. I have always said to myself that when I have a boy that his middle name will be after my dad. Yeah, I'm selfish. And I love my dad.

 Aging parents truly are depressing. My parents were 39 and 36 when I was born, so that means I'm experiencing this fun stuff sooner than others. Oh joy..... I know it's just one of those facts of life that you need to muddle through. There's no way around it. It just blows. It truly blows. 

 And so, if you wouldn't mind, please pray for my dad and a shout out for me also to get through this. I have a sister, but she is just out of it, to put it nicely. I'm the one who gets to see this. I know I have support during this time, and I'll be reaching for it. Believe me. I just don't like it is all.

 I really don't.  

Hello again!

 Hi all!

 Long time, no post!

 I know that I've only been doing the minimum, which is doing the monthly updates. Honestly, I've been debating how to handle blogging since I'd like to highlight my writing yet also keep family and friends updated on things going on with me.  Oh what to do? Then it hit me.

 Why not do one blog for personal stuff and another for professional stuff? After all, people don't want to hear my whining about personal stuff while I'm talking about my freelance writing. So, I've decided to start two blogs-one for personal stuff while the other is for professional endeavors. To visit my blog for professional purposes, visit http://memselfandi.wordpress.com/. If you would like a look into my personal life and not use it against me in my professional life, keep on reading.

 I personally believe that Blogger is great for personal blogs. They are cute and are simple enough to do the trick for keeping family and friends updated. Really though, Wordpress is better suited for business related blogs. They are clean and fresh and modern.

 And so, I will keep both updated regularly. Welcome back and join me (again) for the ride!

Sunday, July 31, 2011

And now.......July


Wow, July is already over.......

 Time is really flying this year, and I am glad that I'm recording it for posterity. I kinda sucked this month though at posterity recording. :)

 I got my hair did, as is evident above. :)

 Of course there was article writing. One thing I like about doing freelance writing is meeting interesting people and doing interesting things. This month was no exception. A couple of things I did this month for my article writing include going to a restaurant that gave free food away to the community and covering a major event in my city. A major event also happened in my city with the police department that I'm going to do some in-depth articles on. I've been formulating this month on how I will approach my topic.

 My nice neighbor is a reporter at the major paper in the area, and he was sweet enough to recommend me to his editor. He told me to e-mail her this past month and ask about freelancing for the paper. I did and she gave me an article to do. The article got turned in and then I had an incident with my camera and the photos for the article are no more. I could have cried. I sucked it up once I realized my mistake and e-mailed the editor and got a curt response. I guess that opportunity is no more.........

 I've also been wondering this month if I need to switch job paths and take a different path with a similar route. Someone who I did an article for this month wants to meet with me today to give me some constructive advice. I'll take it because I need to start moving here and make some more money!

 I felt the pangs of not being a mom this month when my uncle wanted me to play mom taxi service for my 14-year-old cousin. Let's just say she's 14 and leave it at that......

 I went to Bolsa Chica beach this month for my friend Chris's daughter's 15th birthday. My friend has always invited the world to her daughter's birthdays, which is fun.

 And finally, I got some validation this month with something I've been fighting for awhile. It feels good, but it'll still be a fight.

 On to August!


Friday, July 1, 2011

Recapping June

 I haven't been that good this month about calendarizing everything that has happened. So, I'll do the best I can with this month's summary.

 First of all, I heard the Governor of New Mexico speak. She seems good. My parents took me and ohmygawsh, the house that this woman spoke in was kick. ass. Mind you, all the Republicans listening to her were, like, 100 years old, but she was still interesting to listen to.

 I also began writing for another Web site-The Fullertonian! Talk about an ego boost! One of the heads of the site found me on Twitter and liked my work so much so that he invited me aboard. That made me incredibly happy. I'm also doing some other copywriting work for a wedding planning company. God is seriously telling me to pursue this; I know He is. The wedding planning company that I'm doing work for took me to a meeting of the Association of Bridal Consultants. O.M.G. I have never had so much fun doing anything work related! The girl in me squeeled for joy seeing all the wedding stuff. And the location was to die for!

 And then.......Allie graduated from junior high! My sweet little cousin is going into high school! Yikes! It amazed me how short all the girls dresses were at the ceremony.

 I also won a giveaway from this blog. I never win anything from any blog-especially hers! I guess I got lucky this time! She is really good and I love looking at her creations.

 Oh, and I've lost 19.2 pounds so far. Yaaaaaay........

 And that was my month in a nutshell.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

Recapping May


  I cannot believe that I took no pictures of myself in May! Because of that, I'm going to put up this one. I like it. It's pretty!

 May was a good month in many ways. Personally, professionally and spiritually, it rocked! I believe that it personally rocked because I got out a lot and saw friends. Some of those events included the mundane, such as helping Brian and Kelly with their moving. (I transported. I did not lift. I transported.) I went with Rebecca at the end of the month to the Patchwork Indie Arts and Craft Festival in Santa Ana. Interesting. I was glad to see Amy Tangerine's work up close. I've always loved her stuff. This month professionally rocked because I was asked to do some writing for a local Web site. I am also in process of becoming the social networking guru for a wedding planning company. Freelance writing wise was nice also because there were many topics around my city to report on. Yippee! I also felt much closer to God this month. I think God is blessing me as a result.

 I also started back to losing weight again this month. I don't want to tell you how much I've gained back in the past year. :( I'm losing it though and have already dropped 12.2 pounds. More to come!

 I hope June is just as nice as this month.

Wednesday, May 25, 2011

humble pie?

 Like I had mentioned in a previous post, I told a relation that their child was on Myspace representing themselves as an adult. I thought I was overstepping my bounds by telling them and thought for certain that the parents were dumb asses who weren't watching their kid. I was wrong on both accounts-sort of.

 I'm sure that said dad wanted to kill his child when he got my e-mail. He profusely thanked me though and told me that I totally wasn't overstepping my bounds, that as parents he and his wife needed to know these things. Then, a friend of mine who considers her nieces her daughters was telling me that she didn't know where her niece's college graduation was going to be on her campus (several majors were graduating the same day). The niece wasn't able to give her some information, and I mentioned that she needed to look on the school's Web site.

 Both incidents showed me something.

 First, I need to find a man and get crackin'. :) I totally have the makings of an overprotective parent!

 Really though, this showed me that no parent is perfect. My relation with the teenage Myspacer is a good dad who really tries his best. Does he need to realize that the internet is an integral part of the lives of teenagers today? Heck yes! Do all parents need to realize this? Yes.

 I remembered hearing somewhere that children need to only have access to one computer in the house-in a public, well traveled area. I totally agree with this. Also, parents need to have access to their teenagers passwords to Myspace, Facebook, Twitter,  and whatevertheheckelseisoutthere. Finally, parents should  Google their kids. Yes, I'm psycho. What can't Google tell you though?

 So anyway, in my perfection, I forgot to eat some humble pie when discussing how other folks parent their kids. I need to also remember that no one is perfect. That we all make mistakes. Still though....

 Google your teenagers! They'll thank you when they turn 25!

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

Do we REALLY need to know all that??

I love Facebook. It's one of the greatest inventions ever. I am thoroughly convinced of that. However, some people's judgment of posting about their lives makes me wonder one thing.

Really?? Do we really need to know all that??

I got to thinking about this subject the other day because some acquaintances of mine became parents, and Dad literally kept everyone abreast of all the developments on the baby's impending arrival-on Facebook. From the time Mom went in to be induced until the baby arrived, we knew everything! Think I'm lying? The status updates went down something like this:

  • 9 AM-Picture of Mom standing sideways along with a caption: "On our way to the hospital to get induced!"
  • 10 AM-"It took a few attempts to get the IV in, but the Pitocin is going! Back to my book!" (Could men even handle labor if we had the choice to hand pregnancy over to them??)
  • 11 AM-"The epidural started, incident free!" (Are there incidents with epidurals??)
  • 1 PM-"The doctor just broke the water. Progress!"
  • 3PM-A post on Dad's Wall from his SIL. "It's been an hour. Is the kid going to make his appearance soon??" (Dad left a comment and said Mom was at a 5.)
  • 4PM-"At a 10! Very close!"
  • 5 PM-"The baby was born at 4:05 PM, eight pounds, twenty-one inches. There is a God, and today, I saw His handiwork." (Awww. That had me smiling.:) )
 This is the wonder of Facebook. This is the good of Facebook. For times like this, it's a great thing. It's short and sweet. What they did was fine. Just fine. Can you imagine the possibilities though of posting major life events on Facebook besides childbirth? Here are some funky ideas:

  • At the altar: This couple literally changed their Facebook status at the altar! That's kind of cute, but if only the groom planned to do this and didn't tell the bride, I as a bride would have been thinking, "Give me that phone!" Oh yeah, he Tweeted at the altar too!
  • Updating your status while delivering: Above person is the second person I've known to update the world about their childbirth. But, can you imagine that if women were literally texting while giving birth? If a couple can update their Facebook status while at the altar, anything is possible!
  • Updating your status while doing a li'l sumptin' sumptin': People really stop having sex to check their FB statuses?? Apparently so!
  • Updating your status while in a fist fight: If people do it at the altar, while delivering and while having sex, this is possible too!
 Gotta love social media!